Friday, April 26, 2013

What a difference a year can make

April 17, 2013....

Mom and Dad moved to the meadows on February 29, 2012.... A big move with mom not really wanting to go and doing nothing to help.   Mostly what she did was to be persistent about what she wanted from the house to the apartment.... Dad didn't really want to go, but is was ok as long as mom was there.  
Then at the with the end of the school year over and retirement here,,, the cleaning of the house began.... What a mess!!  Everyone had to wear masks at first because of all the dust made it hard for breathing.  The roll off dumpster in the front yard was filled to over flowing with all the throwaways.
If it had not been for the "iron people" who hauled away massive amounts of stuff, one dumpster would not have been enough.  They even hauled off the trailer... Woohoo!!!
After the big clean out, a contractor was hired to tear down the outside pantry, replace toilets, reptile bathrooms and laundry, and do a little sheet rock work and painting.
That done, it was time to list it... All went ok, however, the day before closing, termite damage was found.  House was taken off market..and termite damage repaired.
Then relished....this time the sale went through, to a nice young family with 3 small children.
In the meat time, daddy had a major set back.. He landed in the hospital and for the 3 weeks he was there and in rehab in Fayetteville, he was never alone.  That meant some very woen out people.  He went back to the meadows the day after his 92nd birthday...
All was status quo until March when he quit doing transfers and landed in the hospital again..  This time on to the Bradford house for behab and now long term... Where he will stay..
Not an easy choice for anyone, but one that had to be done.... The good news is that the week he was transitioned to long term, the house sold--check in hand....perfect timing:)
Since Dad is in long term nursing care, mom had to move to a one bedroom apartment.... There was
lots of help for that!!!
Anyway, mom and dad seem to be adjusting to their new living arrangements.  Not perfect, but best for the situation they are in.
Dad seems to be settling in at the Bradford house and they do seem to be taking good care of him as well  as the other residents there.





Friday, March 2, 2012

Parents/a look back.....

March 1, 2012
I am a lucky person.... Both of my parents are still alive and reasonably well... However a few events have happened in the last couple of months that made it necessary to move Mom and Dad to an apartment for independent living and assisted living... (mom mostly independent and dad a little assisted)  We just did the move yesterday and today.  Most things are done... there are some decorating things need to be done... but the big stuff is done... and a tv is set up and going....  The place seems to be a wonderful placed for them to be---I will write more about that later.
Now, I want to look back at some of the events, as I remember them, of my parents lives.
One thing that really comes to mind about my parents, is that they were always very hard working people.    Dad was an agri teacher at the high school for over 30 years and in the Navy reserve for a long time also.  When he wasn't at a "job," he was working around the house or "the farm" doing projects. 
Mom was a "working" mom before it became the "norm".  Even though we didn't have a lot of extra money, there was always good food on the table and a little extra for things that came up in our lives... such as formal dress for rainbows/formal dances/or prom/ or in my sisters case.... cloths for being a homecoming maid.
They also figured out a way to send us to college and live on campus even though the UofA is only 30 miles down the road. 
Which brings me to another quality that is important... Their belief that education is important.  In my case, I did not naturally get good grades... and sometimes in high school, I made some bad grades.  Dad, in his wisdom, would say... if you are doing your best, it is ok.  Well, I knew it was not my best and finally sometime in high school, I started working hard and making better grades.  It was important to both parents that they find a way to send their children to college.  It was never "if" we went to college, it was "when and where" we would go to college.  (All 4 of the daughters are teachers and granddaughter #1 works in the school system)
Both parents love the church... They have been members of the same church for over 60 years.  (the church where they got married)  Growing up, we did not have a choice, we went to Sunday school and church.  Even when were on vacation, they would find a church so we could at least go to Sunday school.  They both have worked varied jobs within the church.. and until just recently went to church most Sundays.  As they have gotten older, they do not get out so much to go to church, but stay in and watch on TV... Now there is a afternoon service at the Meadows they can attend if they want to.
As I write this, I have mixed feelings... It was time to move them, I know that.  But a part of me feels sad that it came to that.  I still want them to be active and to be the parents instead of sisters and I being the "parents."   That is a weighty job.. being the ones to tell parents what is the right thing to do, even if they don't want to do it, especially at first.
So here we are, entering a new phase in our lives... all of us.  I know it is necessary and the place so far is really good.... so we will do the best we can and go on.....
December 13, 2012
This has been a busy last three weeks since Thanksgiving.  Dad took another fall the Monday after Thanksgiving which landed him in the hospital for three days.  He had a very bad UTI and had to be treated for that.  We choose to have someone with him in the hospital 24/7 since he gets really confussed as to where he is.  I spent the first 2 night with him sitting/laying down in a recliner in the hospital room.  I can tell you that hospitals are not quiet places so dealing with that and fact that Dad did not sleep well, I did not get much rest.  I also spent a lot of the day time there... only going home to rest for a few hours at a time.  Doctor wanted him to go to rehab to help with mobility so that is here he is now.  Again we choose to have a family member with him 24/7.  So Mary, Anita, and I have been taking turns staying nights and days.  We have had some help from Jane who came and stayed a week, and Jim, who has been coming on the weekends.  We have been learning correct transfer techniques as Dad will be coming home on Saturday, Dec 15 one day after He turns 92!









Friday, February 10, 2012

More notes on Past Vacations

Some more notes on past vacations:

Some of the vacations we took with the kids—without camping:

1.    We took them to Disney world when Jennifer was 11 and Kelly was 8.  We were living in Benton at the time.  We drove as far as Gulf Shores the first day.  We spent the night in a nice motel with a pool, which happened to be just outside our bedroom.  So Don and I would sit outside and have “happy Hour” while the kids swam.  We then drove on to Disney world area.  We were staying in an apartment out side the park.  With was good for us.  The apartment had 2 bedrooms, with a kitchen, living area etc.  It worked out well even though we were off Disney property because we had a lot of space.  We would go back to the apartment mid day and take naps before going back to parks for the evening.  We had a great time.  The kids were old enough to really enjoy it and they could also do a little exploring on their own.  We took a couple of side trips, one to Sea world, the other to the space station at the cape.  Both were very enjoyable.

2.  We took the kids to Glacier National Park one year.  We had just bought our mini-van so we had lots of room for the drive.  What a long trip up there!  I think it took us the better part of 3 days.  We stayed on one side in a duplex and on the other side in a motel with a kitchen and one bedroom.   We did some hiking and exploring and driving around the area.  A beautiful area…. Which Don and I revisited several years later in one of the campers we had.  Not sure if I will ever go back because it does take so long to get there.

3.  One of the other trips we took with the kids was to Gulf shores area …. We had a condo right on the beach with 2 bedrooms… we could walk to the beach.  We would spend the mornings at the beach and when it was the hottest we would explore the area.  I’m not really a beach person, but it was a pretty relaxing fun vacation.

4.  We also took them skiing 2 different times.   While they were in High school, we went, with the Cummings clan, to Durango ski area… this we took during Christmas… and actually spent Christmas day on the sloops.  Was fun..

Later when they were in College, we took them to Winter Park to ski.. This also was a fun trip.  Although Don and I aren’t really skiers, KDB really likes it. (in fact, he went with the church youth group a few times)

One recent vacation was with Jennifer to south Dakota.  We stayed in an old farmhouse outside Custer, SD… We took bikes so we could ride on the bike trail that is in the area, which we did a few times.  We also hiked up to the tallest peak in SD…. You could see for miles up there.  We also enjoyed driving through the Custer State park and found a couple of herds of Buffalo there.  Really  had a fun time traveling with Jen and the house was very nice….

The last vacation that Don and I took was to Alaska… one of the places on my “Bucket List” to see.  We spent a lot on the trip but had a very good time.  It was worth all of it.  We had a couple of really great days viewing the Mt McKinley … beautiful view along the high way and in the lodge we were staying in.  It was also interesting that while were there,  it was light much of the day. We spent two weeks driving around the southern part of the state and saw many beautiful areas and wildlife.

Saturday, February 4, 2012

More past travels

Past  vacations for the blog…. I am writing a blog about looking back and now I am writing on about looking back on vacations I have taken.

We have taken some nice vacations when the kids were small and growing with just the four of us. 

One of our first Big time vacations was taken when Kelly was almost 2 years old and Jennifer almost 5 years old.  We borrowed a pop up camper and id a tour of Tennessee and Kentucky.  I did learn some things on that first trip… try not to cram too much into a trip.   The plan was to go farther than we did but I soon realized that we needed so stay longer in a place instead of packing up and moving so much.  It just wears everyone out and no one enjoys the trip as much.  When there is a young child along… things can happen.. KDB fell off a table and cut his head which bled quite a bit but he was ok.. But I also learned going with young children can be a lot of fun… all the adults like to give little kids a lot of attention and seeing a place through their eyes is great.

When they were a little older, we did a major camping trip to the Smokey Mountains.  We took two tents and a shelter. (we slept in one tent on cots and dressed in another tent.)  This was a big trip because we camped there and back and stayed in tents while in the Smokey Mts.  I liked tent camping, but it was tiring putting up the tent and taking it down so much.  This area is really pretty and we did enjoy seeing it.  We did some hiking and other such exploring.  I do remember one night it really rained and rained!!! Everything was wet and no one was in a great mood when we got up in the morning.  Don decided it was a good morning to go out for breakfast instead of cooking.. Breakfast was the best and got everyone back in a good mood. I think this was the last big tent camping vacation we did because we found that it made for a really tiring time.   We did some other camping trips… but we would as least stay in a motel on the way there and back.  Also not long after this, we bought a used pop up camper which we used many times until Kelly was in JR high and it seemed we quit going as much… we soon sold it as we didn’t want it sitting around.

I have done a lot of camping in my lifetime.  The first experiences were when I was in high school and college.  My family had a pretty large canvas tent that we would take to Beaver lake which is just outside Rogers.  We would go and spend a week at a time, mostly just hanging out.  We would go in the summers, and when I was in college working summer jobs in Rogers, I would camp out there and then go to work from the camp.  I am sure at the time we did this type of vacation because it was not expensive.  We did have a lot of fun hanging around the camp and swimming at the lake beach.

After Don and I got married, we got a pick up truck and put a camper shell on it.  We were living in Lake Charles at the time.  We went camping out of the back of the truck…(one time we even went down to the gulf of Mexico and camped on the beach.)  We had us a foam pad that we would sleep on.  We cooked on a coleman stove and felt we had it pretty nice.  (we were up off the ground and had a shelter above us)  We used the truck camper a lot for camping until we had the kids and there just wasn’t enough room for 2 adults and 2 children.

We then used tents for our camping trips with the kids.  We camped at Devil’s den, in the National Forest, Petti Jean… mostly places around Arkansas.  The kids enjoyed getting out and the fun of camping.. fun for them – work for me.. but I still enjoyed the getting out with the fam and enjoying nature… hiking and exploring.

We bought a used pop up camper (which I referred to earlier.)  We used this camper a lot… going to Colorado and Yellowstone in this camper.  We also did a lot of in state camping in this pop up. One of my favorite places was Erby campground on the Buffalo River. We would camp there with family and explore the area.  We would wake up with Elk close to the camp.  It was from this camp that I heard my first Elk Buggle… and interesting sound….there are many hiking trails around there and old homestead homes that are historical sites.  Plus, you can not beat the buffalo river for its beauty. The last time we went to Erby, Kelly was in Jr high and Jen was about to turn 16… anyway she got to drive the road to erby from the highway.   We had a good time --- I told a ghost story about someone stopping on the road and scaring the campers.  In the middle of the night a car did stop on the road… I have to admit it did make me a little nervous. Kelly also got sick in the night… so it did not end so well for him.

About this time, I got to where I liked to “camp” in cabins.  I could still enjoy the outdoors, hiking and canoeing,  then go back to a house… many times with a hot tub!  My kind of camping. 

The most adventurous camping trips were on the Middle Fork of the Salmon river floats.  We have done three --- one in 2002, one in 2006 and the last one in 2010.  The MFS is in Idaho.. It takes two – three days to drive out there.  Once there we drive to the “put in” were the primitive camping starts…. Boundry Creek…. Once we have the rafts loaded, we are on a week long trip down the river… what you carry in you carry out.  Plus class 2, 3 and 4 rapids along the way.  It is a fun trip… and most exciting… the area is very beautiful… and people we go with are a lot of fun…. However, that being said…. It is also the most physical trip I have ever been on.  We go down the river for some miles, make camp, cook etc….. go to sleep in tents, break up camp…. And do it all over again the next day, and the next day, and the next day etc….. by the end everyone is very worn out…. But proud to have made it down “the river of no return”.  One of the things we had to do on these trips was kitchen duty… that is above and beyond putting up and taking down your personal tent etc…. The food was always good… of course everyone is so tired and hungry that most anything would taste good.  The first trip we slept on matts, the second time we had and army type cots… the last time we had a roll cot that was the most comfortable.  The first time we went on the river it was about 3f (which at the time I thought it was a bit scary) the second time was 4 ft… an a little more scary plus we had some raft issues on this trip, the third trip was 5 ft and really scary… and it was cold.. snowy… But on all three me made it… (but I have told myself I will never go on that river trip again)

Vacations

I am now researching vacation options for next October.  I will be retired then (that is another "looking Back" story)  as always, as I research and plan a new vacation, I look back and remember past vacations.

As a child growing up, most of our family vacations were linked to my Dad's Navy two week training.  We would go along, stay in a motel, and tour the areas while he went to his training.  Being in the Navy, most of the places we went were on a coast or gulf area where there were ships.  Some of the places we went where, San Diego, New Orleans, Norfolk, Savannah, DC area (Naval Academy is close by) just to name a few.  We would spend time on the beaches if there were any, tour the historic sights in the area, and in general, have a lot of fun.  I remember most of the time when Dad got his dismissal orders, he would get them at midnight and we would start right home then, driving all night.  This may be why now, I don't like driving late into the night.  I always want to get a room in the early evening and relax, getting up early in the morning to continue the drive.

Some more "family" type vacations were taken after Don and I married and had Jennifer and Kelly.
One of the first was a trip to Colorado with Mike and Mary, Scott and Eric.  They were young school aged children at the time.  Since all 4 children are about the same age, they had a lot of fun with each other.  Jennifer was the only girl but I have to say she did keep up with the boys.  Mike and Mary had borrowed a van from Mom and Dad  and pulled their little trailer out there.  We had our pop up camper and pulled it with our LTDII that we had at the time.  We camped at a KOA campground overlooking the mountain peaks across the valley.  Such a beautiful view to wake up to every morning and go to sleep by at night.  We would all pile into the van and explore the mountains all day, driving up to some of the easy passes etc...

Another "family" type vacation was when Jennifer and Scott were 12 years old and Eric and Kelly were just younger.  We went with Mom, Dad, Mike, Mary, and all the kids to Yellow Stone Park.  We camped in a campground just outside the park... We still had the pop up at this time.  Again we would all pile in the van and explore the area.  When you get 10 people in a van, 4 being tweens.... you can always count on an adventure.  We had a lot of fun viewing the animals and seeing all the sights there were to see there.  We saw buffalo, moose, bears (black and grisley) elk .....
We also had our share of car trouble on this trip... the van broke down a couple of times stranding us in some spots.  (just made for more stories) Now that Mom and Dad are older and don't travel with us anymore, I love thinking back to a time when they could go with us and enjoy fun times with us.
More to come later....

Saturday, December 31, 2011

Another "New Year"

Tomorrow is "New Year's Day -- 2012".  Before moving on to a new year, I always reflect on the past year.  Looking back, gives us an good perspective before heading into the future.
I write in a journal two times every year.  Once at the new year and the other time on my birthday which is in June.
This is what I wrote in my Journal this new year's eve:
Good bye 2011!  Hello 2012!

We did take our trip to Alaska the last 2 weeks of July.  It was a worderful trip.  The weather was cool there while very hot in Arkansas.  May go back sometime, possibly on a cruise to the inside passage.
(Don and I love to travel and I always like looking back on our vacatins)
Before going to Alaska, we celebrated the 4th of July at Jennifer's house.  It is fun there because we can see the city fireworks from her house and we can advoid the crowds.
I also rececorated the front porch by painting furniture and the floor of the porch.  It does look really nice after the face lift.
I went back to work  August 8th and students came August 15th... I have had an interesting first part of the year---- to say the least.  I am writing about this on another blog.
Major decision this fall is that I plan to retire after this year!  I just feel it is time.
I did get involved in Girls on the Run during the fall for 3-5th grade girls.  I was pretty fun but very time consuming.
We ended the fall with a 5k run in Bentonville on November 19.
A couple of trips taken this fall were one to Branson with Jennifer, one to Hot Springs with Don to visit friends, and lastly to Oklahoma City for a one night Christmas trip.
We again hosted Thanksgiving and had 18 here.  It was a lot of fun.  We had Lyndsay's mom and her firend here and this was quite nice.  I think everyone got along well.
The new art galery opened in Bentonville.... Crystal Bridges... Very nice building and artwork... maybe the part I like most is the trail system that runs through the property... I have already been there 3/4 times walking!  It is becoming a favorite place for me to walk.
This spring promises to be busy... Don is Master of the local lodge and has Grand Lodge in February.  I plan to take a couple of days off and go with him.
We will have some wedding events as well.
I will be finishing my last semewster of teaching,,,,,,

HAPPY NEW YEAR TO ALL!!!!

Sunday, December 25, 2011

Christmas.....

Today is Chirstmas day and I am having a moment of peace and quiet..... as I sit here, I am reflecting on Christmas' in the past..... Ones that come to mind right away are my children's first Christmas... Jennifer was two weeks old at her first Christmas and Kelly was only 5 days old at his first Christmas.  I remember wrapping them up in red and laying them under the tree so show what a gift they were for us. 
They are now grown and on their own.
Jennifer lives in a house she bought here in Bentonville.  She is close to us and we see her pretty often.  She also gets to "take care" of her MewMaw and PawPaw which she and they enjoy.
Kelly lives in North Little Rock in a house he bought there.  He is engaged to Lyndsay and they are getting married in April.
As I write this I am waiting for all of them to come to the house so we can have our "Christmas".

Another christmas comes to mind is another first Christmas for, I think Jane... only I remember this Christmas for the Baby doll that "Santa" gave me with "real" baby cloths... of course these were some that Jane had out grown and would fit a baby doll.  I remember really loving that doll and playing with it a lot.  (I had gotten up in the middle of the night to see if "Santa" had been there yet to find the baby doll and cloths already there!  I had to go back to bed and wait for time to get up and really find the doll and the cloths.)